Anchored in Love
As I unwind from a beautiful holiday with my family, I thought to repost a blog that is as true today as it was when I originally posted it a year ago.
Much has changed for me over the past year. I have written a book and moved forward in my professional and personal life while anchoring my dreams to the greatest love I know. My anchor in love remains my focus for the upcoming year, and I would like to share it again with you.
This week my coach asked me two questions.
What has been your biggest accomplishment in the last six months? How does that feel? What is your thought that is making you feel that feeling?
What is your impossible goal for 2021?
I was attending a group coaching session, so I got to listen to others be coached on the first question before it was my turn. I had a million thoughts and feelings racing through my brain before my turn to answer, and although I know I gave a response in the moment when I reflected on the question later, it became clear that there was so much more to discover in my answer. And the same thing happened when we went around a second time to discuss our impossible goal for 2021. Goals that I had set long before the coaching session flew out of my head. I was again able to come up with an answer, but it was clear that whatever goals I set previously were not yet anchored in my heart.
My answers were a place to mark time and space, but the great gift for me was found in the time that I spent working through the answer in my own time and turning the question over in my mind as you answer these questions for yourself. Don’t worry about the feelings racing through your heart, the past results, or the accuracy of your answer. It is okay if the answer is an approximation. The goal is not in the gaining of knowledge but the understanding of your truth. Get it out and be open to letting your truth change you.
My answers came to me in an interesting way. On the night before Christmas, a storm was expected in New York, with wind gusts exceeding 65 miles per hour. I first thought that I needed to make sure that my terrace furniture was secured to the rail post so that it didn’t blow away and cause others personal damage. However, I had already done this earlier in the season, anticipating a storm just like this one. When the storm came, I looked out of the window a few times, but I was able to surrender my worry.
It was then that I found my anchor. My 2021 goals are embedded in the truths that I have discovered, loved, and nurtured over my lifetime. They are embedded in my sense of self and in my sense of purpose. As we grow and shed what is no longer needed, it is important to reconnect with our core truths as we look to move forward.
Pick an impossible goal, plan for your epic fails, and embrace the benefits of failing. Just make sure that these goals are anchored in your sense of self and your sense of purpose; it is a good way not to get caught in the wind.
