Your Capacity to Have
However you define success, allowing yourself to have it is often a more eye-opening journey than achieving it. For some, it delays or even prevents us from trying.
When I was younger, I was content with a minimum income. My thought was if I could overcome life struggles without money, I could always count on life being manageable, whether I had money or not. Although true to me at the time, my thoughts were not very helpful in achieving long-term goals.
As a young dancer in New York, I believed you had to suffer for your art and pay your dues. This thought was limiting as well. Many artists enjoyed long, lucrative careers without the lengthy struggle. So who was I to assume that that was necessary?
As a young parent, I learned that creating a safe space for our children requires us to take responsibility for our health, pay our way in the world, and nurture the relationships we care about most. Without these things, success will always be incomplete. Success is about talent and hard work, but it is also about how much you have your own back, the stories you tell yourself, and what you choose to believe.
Long-term success or your capacity to have is about starting from where you are, leaning into compassion, and accepting your worthiness, blessings, and abundance. It is not because you deserve it or you don't deserve it, but because you are a human who is enough.
Life is a gift so let's make the most of it!