Curiosity

Curiosity

Self-critical perfectionists are more prone to becoming intimidated by the goals they set for themselves rather than feeling motivated. They may more often feel hopeless or that their goals will never become a reality. So the question is, how can you move through it?

As a recovering perfectionist, I choose to see my decisions and negative behaviors as opportunities to learn. To be curious about why I prefer to think in a way that moves me away from my goals.

When I make mistakes, no need to make it mean that there is something wrong with me. Instead, I commit to being passionately curious. Curiosity is more important than any knowledge gained by beating myself up. True success includes curiosity, concentration, perseverance, and self-reflection.

Notice if your self-talk is true, necessary, and kind. If it is not all three, it will not be helpful. Give yourself time to wonder, time to search for the truth, and to freely draw upon your imagination. Then write it down, move on and learn from it.

WRITE IT DOWN & MOVE ON

1. What did I do, or how did I show up in a way that wasn’t my best self?

2. What was the circumstance that triggered my thought?

3. What was the thought that caused my actions?

4. Did I try to resist, or did I react?

5. If so, what worked and what didn’t?

6. What did I learn?

7. What will I do next time?